Saturday, September 30, 2006

Who Were The Ghost Children?

The fog was thick on that October night. The Leeds to London Express steam train shrieked its whistle into the chilly Autumn air. It sped through the foothills of the Cotswolds past grey stone cottages and ancient churches. The passengers sat huddled side by side on hard padded seats in the dim light of the flickering gas-lamps. Some were dozing, some awake and they were all tired by the long overnight journey. However, the end of the line was only minutes away.

The driver, Ernest Aldington, was trying to make up five minutes time that had been lost earlier in the trip. The fog grew denser. Unbeknown to him and shrouded by that fog, a shunting engine puffed is way across the main fast line towing behind a line of heavily laden trucks that were destined for the station sidings at the village of Charfield. Seconds later, the inhabitants of this village were abruptly awakened by a thunderous crash, metal ploughing into metal, woodwork splintering and the shrieking and screaming of terrified passengers. There was a roar of crackling fire and an inferno of billowing flames. As if this horror was not enough, a third train then ploughed into the crushed and broken wooden coaches of the now derailed express.

There was explosion after explosion as gas cylinders ruptured. The blaze grew worse. Villagers, dressed only in their nightclothes, ran to help but little could be done. The intense heat drove them back, the light from the fire dispelled the fog and the full horror was to be seen. Some passengers had been thrown clear and, thankfully, forty-one people survived that terrible disaster. For the rest, nothing could be done. They were burnt beyond recognition. A doctor was called, Dr. H. Walsingham Ward. He was a highly respected, distinguished and very trustworthy man as well as being medically qualified. He had seen many a terrible sight in the trenches during the first World War but he found it hard to conceal his anguish at the horror that confronted him. Some of the people were identified by personal belongings as slowly and painfully the clues were pieced together. Fifteen corpses were laid out on the railway tracks together with their mangled possessions.

It was then that the mystery began. Whilst combing the wreckage, two more pieces of burned remains were discovered, side by side in one of the crushed compartments near the front of the train. It was hard to believe they had been living creatures. There was only one clue. Two charred shoes, both nine inches long and certainly a pair, were found. They could have been the shoes of a young boy.

One week later, a coroner’s inquest returned verdicts of accidental death on the victims of that horrible accident on the 13th  October 1928. The fifteen corpses were named. The remaining two were not. They were the ones brought out from that front compartment. Dr. Ward declared that, in his opinion, one was a boy aged about 11 years, the other a girl perhaps around the age of seven.

Thus the mystery of the Ghost Children of Charfield began. No person ever came forward to claim the remains, there were no reports of children having disappeared from anywhere. A further inquest proved to be of little help and only the fact that “two unknown persons” approximately 3-7 and 10-15 met their deaths that night. Dr. Ward remained adamant about his findings. The victims were buried together and on the memorial was added “Two Unknown”.

Doubts soon began to creep into peoples’ minds. They found it hard to accept the evidence of Doctor Ward. Surely, two children could not die in such circumstances and never be missed or claimed? Some suggested that the two body parts found were, in fact, the mangled remains of just one other victim, possibly an adult. Dr. Ward would not be moved. He stated he was experienced enough to be able to determine the sexes, even in such mutilated remains. The police sergeant who had actually found the remains said he and his helpers were certain that the charred bodies they removed were definitely children.

Then Henry Haines came forward. He was a porter at Gloucester Station. He recalled that night very well indeed. The express was late arriving and he had to go through the carriages collecting and clipping tickets before the express could leave the station at 4.56 a.m. He swore that he saw two children travelling alone near the front of the train. One was definitely a boy and the other a girl. He recalled the girl as sitting facing the engine, the boy was opposite her and there was a school-book face down on the seat next to him. It crossed his mind at the time that it was strange that the children were travelling alone, especially at night,  but he was in a hurry so did not stop to speak to them which, he said, he regretted. He remained adamant that he had seen them despite all the heavy  pressure being put on him to admit that he could be wrong, maybe he had made a mistake, maybe he just wanted his name to be known. Nothing would alter his story. He had seen those children. He maintained that all his life.

A popular magazine of the day tried to debunk the whole story, accusing Dr. Ward and Henry Haines of making false claims or having made gross mistakes.

The writer of the story had nothing to base these accusations only except for the fact that he himself did not believe it was possible for the children to die in such a way and never be claimed. Some believed what they read, others remained sure that the doctor and the porter were telling the truth. The story spread throughout Britain, Europe and even into America. Hundreds of thousands of people read about the two little victims. Months slipped by and nobody ever came forward to claim them as their own. Did someone know them? Were they keeping quiet because they had something to gain from the deaths? The rumours rumbled on and on.

Then, exactly a year to the day, October 13th 1929, Charfield was to witness a mysterious happening. A chauffeur-driven car stopped at the gates of the old cemetery. A woman emerged dressed in deep black with a long veil to hide her face from any onlookers. She carried a small posy of flowers. She took them to the victims’ grave, knelt for a few moments and then placed the flowers beneath the engraving “Two Unknown” and then she left. She returned on the same date the following year.

This was not the end of the tale. A few miles away in Bristol a sensational case arose concerning one of the most upstanding and respected citizens of the town, no less than the Chief Constable, a Mr. James F. Watson. He had misused public funds to send some of his officers on holiday. He was first suspended and then dismissed from his post. Now, Mr. Watson had played a massive part, along with his men, in the rescue work on the night of the Charfield crash. He suddenly disappeared from the City and then rumours began to spread that maybe he had some connection with the two children. A man came forward to say that he had seen Mr. Watson in the chauffeur driven car at the cemetery and that he had waited inside whilst the woman visited the memorial. No one knew where Mr. Watson had gone and no one seemed interested in searching for him. Then, just before Christmas 1930, a Bristol lawyer, Mr. Francis Hapgood, was contacted by his friend Mr. Watson. He received a telegram from London which said simply “Meet me, Waterloo Bridge Tomorrow Midnight - J.Watson.”

Mr. Hapgood took the train to London and met him on the Embankment by the Thames. Their meeting was very brief. They apparently shook hands and parted. What conversation passed between them was never revealed. Hapgood would never speak of it and took that secret to his own grave.

Two mornings later, the body of Mr. Watson was found in the pleasure gardens at Eastbourne, lying next to an open, cut-throat razor. People were stunned when a an open verdict was returned. Open verdict? There were no signs of a struggle, his throat had been cut, a open razor was lying near him. How could there be an open verdict. It had to be suicide. So, there it ended. Mr. Hapgood  refused to even discuss the matter and would give no details of what had been spoken of at their meeting. He died  himself not all that long afterwards.

A medium visited the site of the crash scene, and she immediately felt the presence of two children, brother and sister and she was convinced they died on that awful night.

After the suicide? of Mr. Watson, the lady in black was never seen again.

The mystery remains. Were Dr. Ward and the porter both mistaken, had Dr. Ward made a wrong assumption as to what the remains were and then felt he could not back down because of his reputation? Was Mr. Haines, the porter just trying to make a name for himself. If they were indeed two children, why were they never claimed? They must have belonged to somebody, someone must have bought their tickets for that journey? Did that person have something to gain by not coming forward? What connection had Mr. Watson to the children, if he had any at all and who was the woman in black? The memorial still stands today although the inscription  “Two Unknown” is barely legible now. The mystery remains as strong today as it did all those years ago.

Who or what were the Charfield ghost children? We shall never know.

Friday, September 29, 2006

Friday

Well, the appointment is over. I got there o.k. despite feeling panicky in the waiting room as it was so hot and crowded. I do not really write much about my health on here but decided to give you all an update as I know that many prayers have been said for me, I have received e-cards and e-mails wishing me well.  It is easier for me to bring you up to date on my journal.

It went pretty well on the whole, good results for my blood pressure, my sugars have dropped over the last week and she was pleased with that, my feet were perfect with no problems and the specimen I had to provide proved to be sugar free.  I was starting to feel really good about things. Little did I know that this appointment was going to lead to several more!

For a start they want an annual review done of my blood.  Now, I absolutely hate going to the clinic where they take it.  For a start they are butchers and I have never come back without an arm that has stayed black and blue for a week or more afterwards.  Secondly, you go in two at a time so you are facing a total stranger who stares at you the whole time you are having blood taken.  This is also a fasting test so I will not be able to have any breakfast and will not be able to take any of my medication.  That is booked for next Wednesday.

Then I have to provide specimen samples for three days starting tomorrow.  If the results came back that my sugars have run at an average of eight or over for the past three months I have been told it might mean even more medication.  Well, I am not prepared to agree to that at this time and the next paragraph will tell you why.

 They think I have an infection, in fact it is pretty certain.  Despite being in with the nurse for nearly fifty minutes, she was not prepared to do anything about it there and then.  No, I have to go back to the surgery next Thursday morning to have a swab taken. Then it will be several days wait for the results before any treatment is offered.  Any infection in a diabetic can put your blood sugars up, we also had a prolonged heatwave and heat can also play havoc with sugars as well.   I shall definitely state that I would prefer to wait until the next check in December to make sure any infection is gone.  If then my sugars come back high, I will have no option but to go with increased medication.  I am hoping it will not be necessary.

So, two definite appointments next week and then, in all likelihood, at least one the following week.

Yes, it does give me two or three more opportunities to leave the house and get out of these four walls however hard that might be for me but I want to go to nice places, places I can enjoy, not the blood clinic and the surgery - places that stress me out!

I got through this appointment reasonably well so hopefully I can do the same for the next couple of weeks.  I would much have preferred it though if that had been the end of it and I could truly relax and not have anything hanging over my head.

"Such is life" as my dear Dad used to say.

Anyway, on to other things.  We looked after Daniel this morning.  He is walking pretty well now and is in to everything.  He turned on the washing machine - although he left the door open, he turned on the computer, he did his best to turn on the t.v. but Grandy was too quick for him.

I sat for quite a while combing his beautiful hair, and it is beautiful.  From being quite dark is has turned to such a pretty red/blond colour - strawberry blond I think they call it.  My mother had that colour hair when young. His curls are adorable and I so loved combing them and twining them around my fingers and he seemed to like me doing it. 

Nathan now loves to feed the dogs treats, one at a time and he always does each dog in turn, he laughs so hard to see them gobble them down. So far at nursery school he has made a jam tart (not sure if it was edible), a cat mask (must have had lots of help with that) and a variety of chalk drawings.

Tomorrow Becky and Dean are taking the boys to the Colne Valley Railway.  They are having a "Thomas The Tank Engine" day.  Nathan is really into Thomas now and he runs around yelling "Whoo whoo" as he hears that sound on the films he watches of that character.  The weather forecast is not good but I know the boys will love it and Nathan will be so happy to ride on "Thomas".  I have asked Becky to take some photos and I hope to be able to share some with you on here.

Well, that is about all my news.  Mixed feelings about the appointment. Glad that everything appears good on the surface, not happy about the upcoming appointments but there are many much worse off than I so I must not complain.  I will be glad when the appointments are done and I can settle back into my life without anything in the offing.

I am looking forward to Coronation Street tonight when Charlie gets back from his dirty night away with Maria to be confronted by his live- in lover Tracy with the news that his one time girlfriend Shelley is carrying his child!  All life happens on that street.

P.S. It is quite late in the day now, getting near time for the evening meal.  I am also pretty tired so I might not catch up on all your journals until tomorrow, but I will catch up.

P.P.S. Jim has re-started his journal.  Some of you may know him and some of you may not. He is a gentleman in his seventies with many an interesting tale to tell.  He does not get many readers at present so I am sure he would welcome anyone who would like to visit him at the following link.

There are noSundays.

Sunday, September 24, 2006

Video Entry

I am sharing with you today a little slice of our area.  The church you will see is one where Becky was christened and the funeral of both my parents took place.  Sadly, Mike and I were not able to be married there. As a divorced man, they would not entertain it. Strange, because they were quite happy to baptise our daughter!

I hope to be catching up on all your journals really soon.

So, sit back and enjoy the scenery and the history lesson into the bargain.

 

Wishing each and every one of you a good week.

Saturday, September 23, 2006

Reply To E-Mail Questions

I have received quite a few e-mails asking me the same questions so I have decided to answer them here, on my journal.  That way you will all know the answers.

1.  First Name? - Jeannette

2.  Middle Name? - Mary

3.  Are you named after anyone ?- Yes, Jeanette Macdonald the film star and singing partner of Nelson Eddy.

4.  When did you last cry? - yesterday.

5.  Do you like your handwriting? - no, it is awful.

6.  What is your favourite lunch meat? - Ham.

7.  Children ? - one.

8.  Would you be friends with you? - I like to think so.

9.  Do you have a journal? - yes, I am writing it at this very moment.

10. Do you use sarcasm a lot? - never, if I can avoid it.

11. Do you still have your tonsils? - yes.

12. Would you Bungee Jump? - There is no a rope/cord/wire/piece of elastic strong enough to hold me and, as I hate heights - no!

13. Favourite cereal? - Weetabix.

14. Do you untie your shoes when you take them off? - I never wear shoes with laces.

15. Do you think you are strong? - No.

16. What is your favourite ice cream flavour? - I do not eat ice cream.

17. Shoe size? - 7 (UK size).

18. Red or Pink? - Pink.

19. What is your least favourite thing about yourself?  - My total lack of confidence.

20. Whom do you miss the most? - My parents and my brother.

21. Do you want everyone to send this back to you? - no, that is why I am answering on my journal.

22. What colour pants and shoes are your wearing? - I am wearing a pink and blue dress and I am barefoot.

23. Last thing you ate? - A ham roll.

24. What are you listening to right now - Classic FM radio.

25. If you were a crayon, what colour would you be? - Blue.

26. Favourite smell? - Fresh cut grass, baking bread, frying bacon.

27. Who was the last person you talked to on the phone? - My daughter.

28. The first thing you notice about people you are attracted to? - Their eyes.

29. Do you like the person who sent this to you? - Several people sent it to me and I like them all.

30. Favourite drink? - Tea.

31. Favourite sport? - None.

32. Hair colour? - Mostly grey these days.

33. Eye colour? - Blue/grey.

34. Do you wear contacts? - No.

35. Favourite food? - None in particular.

36. Scary movie or happy ending? - Both.

37.  What colour shirt are you wearing? - ???????? last time I looked I was female.

38. Favourite dessert? - I do not eat dessert.

39. Who is most likely to respond? - anybody can leave a comment if they wish.

40. Least likely to respond? - H.M. The Queen.

41. What book are you reading? - The Good Old Days - Crime, Murder and Mayhem in Victorian London.

42. What's on your mouse pad? - An ancient Egyptian mural.

43. What did you watch on t.v. last night? - I did not watch t.v. last night.

44. Favourite sounds? - My Grandsons laughing.

45. Rolling Stones Or Beatles? - I dislike both.

46. The farthest you have been from home? - Spain and Switzerland.

47. This question has disappeared into cyberspace.

48.  See 47.

49. Do you have a special talent? - I like to think I write pretty well.

50. When and where were you born? - I was born on the 9th September 1943 above a shop in the High Street of Crickhowell, Powys, South Wales.

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The grass seed that Mike planted in the front garden last weekend is springing up nicely.  The weather has been very warm but thankfully we got several hours of much needed rain yesterday.  Daniel did seven steps across the floor at his home today so I can officially say that - he is walking!  Becky is going to have her hands even more full now.

I would like to thank Mary of Hunybea's Open Journal for the lovely long conversation yesterday that really helped to lift my spirits. Mike has gone out to get me a microphone so maybe Mary and I can speak in person as was discussed yesterday.

Well, that is about all from me. I have a doctor's appointment on Friday which, as usual, I am not looking forward to and I hope it will not mean even more medication but I will take it as it comes. Remaining calm is my biggest problem and I must work on that. Even getting there is a problem for me as most of you know, so I have to be strong and calm as there are certain things that need to be discussed and I cannot do this if I am in tears as has happened in the past.  I must be positive.

The boys love their sandpit as you can see.

Have a good weekend everyone.

P.S. I now have my microphone connected, had a conversation with Mary.  If anyone wishes to speak to me, please drop me an email and let me know and we can arrange something.

Thursday, September 21, 2006

I Hate Corrie

No, not back to doing my journal and commenting yet but I just had to share this with you.  We have been trying to get film for some time and last night Mike succeeded.  When Jesse sees the camera he normally takes himself off elsewhere.  He dislikes the camera almost as much as he dislikes the theme tune to Coronation Street!

It is only a very short video but it might amuse you all.  Oh, by the way, he does not do it for any other t.v. programme or any other music. It is also often much louder and more prolonged than this time but I think he knew Mike had the camera even if he did try to hide it.

 

I miss doing my journal and I miss you all very much and commenting on your journals, but health comes first.  I will be back at the earliest possible opportunity.  In the meantime, take care everyone.

Tuesday, September 19, 2006

See You Soon

Just to let you all know that I am taking a break from my journal for a while.  I have some health issues at the moment and I need to get myself right.  I just cannot put my mind to writing or commenting right now.  I know you will all understand.

Monday, September 18, 2006

Alteration to Previous Entry

Apparently nominations are not open as yet.  See my previous entry to find out exactly what is happening right now and what you need to do.  Thank you.

Sunday, September 17, 2006

Start Recommending Now

If you are taking part in the Vivi Awards, now is the time to start recommending journals that you feel are worthy of an award.  They are taking recommendations so that they can draw up a nominee list.

Here is the site to go to:-

2006 VIVI AWARD JOURNAL

 

 

Saturday, September 16, 2006

Him Outdoors! Video Entry.

 

P.S. Answer to some comments.  Yes, I know Mike was riddling and not "shaking" but it was the first time I had spoken on video for you all and I had no script. You always think of things afterwards and also other things you could have said.

Friday, September 15, 2006

Swan Lake? - No this is a Swan river!

We had the most spectacular storm the night before last.  The sky was continually lit up with the lightning but we only had three ten minute bursts of rain.  It reminded me so much of the electrical storms I first saw in Spain when I was nineteen.  Jack has never experienced a storm since we have had him but he was totally unconcerned unlike Jesse who was a nervous wreck and we both thought of Pip and how bad he used to get.  Hopefully Jack will not mind fireworks because next month they will all start prior to Bonfire Night and continue for several weeks. How I wish they would ban the sale of them until a few days before and completely after that night is over.

We looked after Daniel this morning whilst Nathan went swimming.  Nathan did so well at nursery school yesterday that Becky was able to leave him for an hour. So, he now starts twice a week.

Daniel's eye appears to have improved so much we are hoping that surgery will not be necessary.  The specialist said it might but Becky can leave it until a week before his hospital date to make sure before she cancels.   Fingers crossed on this one.

I watched a very good documentary last night about the Aberfan disaster and how the villagers had to fight to get the coal tips removed and they even had to pay something towards the cost but these brave people took on the might of the government and won.  I remember watching the t.v. on the night of the disaster all those years ago and how heartbreaking it was.  Now the children that survived are middle-aged but their memories remain so strong.  You cannot imagine a whole generation of children practically wiped out from one village but that is what happened, 116 children and 28 adults perished that day.

That is about all my news really. So, I have another video I am going to post for you today.  This river is not far from us and very close to Becky.  She often takes the boys there to feed the swans.

I am sorry the film is somewhat dark.  It was a very humid day, it was misty and the sun was behind the clouds. It is jumpy in one part where Mike slipped whilst turning around. You will see that this is a tidal river and the tide was either going out or coming in.  Being midweek it was very quiet. At the weekends it is a different story with all the weekend sailors and the river gets very busy.  There are some lovely houses for sale overlooking the water.  Oh, if only the lottery would come up. I would love to look out of my window and watch the river in its many changing moods.  Anyway, sit back and relax for a few minutes, let the music wash over you and enjoy the beauty of the swans and ducks.

I hope that made you feel more relaxed.

The last shot of the swans reminds me so very much of the ballet. What graceful and elegant birds they are.

Wishing each and every one of you a wonderful weekend.

Wednesday, September 13, 2006

Warm Wednesday

It is so humid today, almost unbearable although Nathan and Daniel did not seem to mind.  They have recently left after having spent the morning with us.

Lightning lit up the sky last night but never actually came to a storm and we could desperately use some rain.  We have begun taking the summer bedding out now.  The front garden is already done and winter pansies are in place. We still have the back to do but the plants are so expensive this year due to the heatwave summer, so we will have to purchase them a few at a time. That way it will also be easier than trying to plant them all in one day.

I noticed this year that we had  no greenfinches or goldfinches come to the garden.  Last year our feeders were covered with them.  Then I read in the paper this morning that a disease is wiping them out en masse.  Nothing to do with bird flu and not contagious but it is decimating these little birds.  So sad.

Talking of sad, it was heartbreaking to read some of the tributes that were posted on Monday.  Nobody could possibly read them all but the ones I read brought tears to my eyes.  The one that affected me the most was one mentioned in a posting by Guido on his journal.  He has now deleted the link.  To watch the video and hear the very last words of this man just tore me apart.  It is something I will not forget for a very long time.  It was wonderful how the journalling community came together in this way but, of course, there were journals offering to do a tribute that did not exist and others might have just backed out.  People are even now volunteering to still do a tribute to any victim that was missed.  So heartwarming.

Here is the latest picture of the boys taken about an hour ago:

Well, I suppose I had better get the washing up done and then take something for my headache (due to the weather). Plenty of washing up. Where Nathan puts his food I just do not know because he seems to haveno waist and his trousers are constantly falling down!  He scoffed two bowls of macaroni cheese, some tomato and cucumber, half a banana and some ice cream.  But he is like a whirlwind, always on the go and has limitless energy.  Wish I was the same.

Hope you are all having a good week.

Sunday, September 10, 2006

2.996 - A Man, Not Just A Number

Today I write of Abner Morales. We never met, we could never have met. Separated by thousands of miles, ethnic backgrounds and age group it was something that could never happen. Yet, we shared a common bond - being part of the human race.

What would have been going through his mind as he travelled to work on that bright sunny morning? Was he thinking of the daily tasks that lay ahead? Was he thinking of his wife, Norma and children Kathleen Yvette and little Michael Alexander? Perhaps he was thinking of his birthday in ten days time. It was to be his 38th birthday and a small family celebration was being arranged. Maybe he was thinking of the planned trip to Disneyland the following month and how happy and excited the children would be. He may have been more than a little sad because his own father, in an ironic twist of fate, had died exactly one year ago to the day.

Whatever he was thinking it is certain that one thought could never have crossed his mind. No idea so terrible could ever have crept into his consciousness. The thought that this would be his very last day. Abner Morales was never going to see the sunshine again, never going to return to his home and beloved family.

Abner Morales was a victim of 9/11

Abner was born on September 21st 1963 in Perth Amboy, New Jersey, the son of Hilda and Felix Morales. He was educated in New York City and studied extensively in the field of computer programming. He was a loving and devoted husband and father. He and Norma had been together for twenty years and married for seventeen of them. He loved to draw and spend hours listening to music. He was an avid Yankees fan.

He was also a dedicated and conscientious worker for Fiduciary Trust Company where he had been employed for eleven years. His office was on the 97th floor. By a twist of fate, Abner had already been involved in one scare at the World Trade Center. He was working in the lower levels of that building when a terrorist bomb exploded in the basement in 1993. Afterwards he began having anxiety attacks but he was a strong person and soon got them under control. His company re-established itself in New Jersey and Abner’s life went on much as it had done before.

The company then decided to move back to the Trade Center. Whether Abner was apprehensive about this cannot be known but having his colleagues and friends around him probably mitigated any fears he had. He treated his colleagues as extended family. He enjoyed his work as assistant vice president of computer programming and he was also head of evacuation for his department.

Nobody can possibly imagine the feelings of these people when the north tower was struck by a hijacked plane. Before the south tower was also stricken, Abner’s best friend in the company spoke to him as Abner began ushering a number of his colleagues, including this friend, into an elevator. The friend urged Abner to get into the elevator with him. Abner replied that he would do so and make his escape when he was sure that he had got everybody out. That was the last anybody ever saw of him. He died trying to save others.

His body has never been found.

2,996. That is the number of victims who perished that day. 2,996 and Abner was just one of those. But he was more than a number, more than a statistic, he was a man, a loving, caring, hard-working human being adored by his family and his friends.

Today I have written about him.  The other 2,995 victims will each be remembered individually by journallers who have volunteered for the 2,996 Project.  Each one will be written about, each one will be honoured. I am privileged to have been assigned Abner Morales.

As I said, we could never have met. It is impossible for me to know all the details of his life but I know he was deeply loved by his wife, his children and all of his family members and respected by his co-workers. I have told you something about this man. At almost 38 years of age his life was extinguished in a brutal and senseless fashion. May he rest in peace and may his family find solace in the memories they hold of this gentle person.

The ancient Eyptians had a saying “only speak my name and I shall live again”. Today I have spoken the name of Abner Morales. Through my journal today he lives again, he lives for all of you who read my words. He becomes not just a number but flesh and blood. A person who had all the same hopes, dreams, desires, worries and frustrations that we all do. A person who showed great courage in trying to save the lives of others and laid down his own in so doing.

Join me in remembering not only Abner but all those innocent victims who perished that dreadful day and the families who are left to grieve for a lifetime.

The following video is dedicated to all the victims of terrorism throughout the globe. Let us unite together and pray for peace in a better world.

 

 

Here is the link for the 2,996 Project - List Of Participants      where you will be able to find all of the journals paying  their own tribute to each victim.

Saturday, September 9, 2006

P.S. To Previous Entry

How lovely!

I would like to thank Sandra & Jim, Jan & Maurice, Jean, Debbie, Jeannette and Christine for the lovely Birthday cards that arrived through my door and also thank Ally, Lynne, Linda, Kathy Joan ,Jules and Helen for the pretty e-cards.  You have certainly brightened my morning.

I received a super present from Mike.  A new monitor  - my old one was pretty good but did not match the computer.  This one is also bigger and I feel like I am sitting in front of a giant cinema screen.  Mike knew I would like one and has been saving his pennies. Bless him, I have the best husband in the world.

Here are some of the cards, the rest are dotted around the room

Sandra sent me a new little companion.  His name is Beano

Looks like this is going to start a whole new collection. Thank you Sandra, he is adorable.

Well, the family will be coming over later to help me celebrate my birthday.   I am looking forward to that because Birthdays these days make me feel so old!  I am very blessed by a wonderful family and such very good friends.

Thank you all once again and have a great weekend everyone.

P.S.  If  you have not seen the previous entry, please do go and see the lovely graphic Kath made for me and visit her journal to see the poem she also wrote for me.  Thank you.

Friday, September 8, 2006

Birthday Surprise!!

What a wonderful surprise I had checking my computer before I headed off to bed.  A dear journal friend has made a framed  graphic photo of me.  She did it without my knowing.  I feel so special and so honoured that Kath has done this.

Not only has she made this graphic, she has also written a poem for me for my Birthday.  So please go over and have a look and read her rhyme

KATH

It is certainly sending me to bed with a smile on my face. I have a present waiting from Sandra of Sandra's Scribbles and a nice little pile of cards.  I shall be spending the day with the family but, no doubt, I shall be on my trusty computer sometime during the day or evening.

This gesture by a journal friend has really touched my heart.  Thank you Kath, you are a star.

Thursday, September 7, 2006

Birdhouse

Hello friends

As you know I purchased a new bird feeder last week.  I liked it so much I decided to go for the matching bird house, more like a miniature dovecote where birds can shelter and nest if they wish.  It has two floors and is very attractive.  Thought that you might like to see it

It has openings all around it so there would be no fighting to get in.  It would be wonderful if a little family was raised in there next year.  Here is a snap of the birdhouse and feeder together.  They are not as close as they look in the picture

We think they look elegant and add something a little different to the garden.

Him indoors took a couple of autumn type shots, the first one is of berries on the Rowan tree we have in the back and the other is apples on our miniature tree

This was taken looking upwards. The berries are all in a ring at the top, like a crown.

I am very pleased with the Hibiscus.  I bought it at the beginning of summer.  It was just a bare-rooted stick. An outdoor variety that will tolerate the British climate.  The instructions said that it would do very little this year but should at least have some leaves on it.  Well, they obviously did not tell the plant that.  I put it in a very large pot, gave it good compost, plenty of water and it has around a dozen flowers on it.

Nathan had his first visit to nursery school this morning. Becky had to stay with him, of course, and he kept checking to see if she was still there.  He played with the sand and then made friends with a little girl and went into the garden there.  At first it will be just the once a week but when he gets used to it, he will go twice and Becky will leave him.  They grow so fast but I am glad that he enjoyed it and it does give Becky some special time with Daniel.

Hope alerts are working again now. I have been away from journalling and commenting for a couple of days because I have been working on a project which you will get to see in the near future.  Take care everyone.

Monday, September 4, 2006

Anniversary and Answering Your Questions- Part Two

HAPPY 13TH ANNIVERSARY TO BECKY AND DEAN!

Our wonderful daughter and son-in-law are celebrating thirteen years of happy marriage today.  Dad and I wish you both  a wonderful day and countless happy years ahead.  We love you!

Now, on to answering the remainder of your questions.

Randlprysock asks: Have you ever been able to travel to visit the states or any other countries abroad and did you like your visit and where did you go? She also asks if I would prefer to see Charles become the next king or one of his sons?

As I answered in a previous question, no, I have never been to America. I have been on holiday to Switzerland and loved my stay in Interlaken and all the excursions I made, particularly my trip to the top of the Jungfrau. Switzerland is a beautiful country. I spent several days in France and saw many of the WW1 and WW2 cemeteries which was truly heartbreaking and the memory of those thousands of graves has remained with me. I have also had two holidays in Spain and really loved it but that was in the days before all the huge new hotels were built and everything was geared totally to tourism. We stayed in a small fishing village on the Costa Brava and I have great memories. I would not like to go back and see how much it has all changed and become commercialised.

My own views on Charles becoming King? I think that because of all that went on in his “marriage” all the scandal about his mistress who is now his wife and the fact he is getting on in years, I personally would like to see the Queen reign all her life and then the crown pass directly to Prince William. I think the monarchy needs a younger approach these days with a King who is more in tune with his people and as William is so like his late mother, I think he would be a good monarch.

BobandKate asks: Did you ever have long hair in the past and if so why did you cut it?

My hair never grew past shoulder length. Do not ask me why. My hair has always been thick and always grown extremely fast but it stubbornly refused to grow longer than that. I would have loved to have really long hair reaching down my back. My mother got tired of combing out all the tangles so took me to have it cut short during most of my school years. Later on I wore it shoulder length and had it permed. I had the best of both worlds wearing it either down or pinned up. However, as I got older and the aches and pains set in, I could no longer cope with all the perming, having to put rollers in my hair several times during the week and all the fuss that goes with hair styling. So, one day I asked my hairdresser to cut it all off, as short as possible. In fact I asked that she used clippers like they do on men. I have never regretted it. It takes no maintenance at all now. Just wash it every day when I am in the shower and it is done. I have also stopped colouring and I am just growing old gracefully and naturally.

Astoriasand asks: If you were able to get out more, where would you love to go on a regular basis and who with?

As in a previous answer, I would love to take regular walks on the beach or in the countryside and also visit many of the historic places that I still wish to see. I would want to be with my beloved Mike. Another thing I would like to do is attend night school and do a course in PSP and learn how to make graphics.

Z7snowflake asks: Where do you get your pretty graphics? Do you make them?

As above, no I do not make graphics but I greatly admire the talents of those that do. Some I collect from the web, others are made for me by people like Donna and Angel and I also belong to a graphics group where we exchange graphics. Sometimes friends just send me graphics knowing I will like them.

 

Colleen and Chris have both asked this question: Do you and Mike have a special song, maybe one you danced to at your wedding or one that is special for you both?

No, Mike and I do not have a special song. We did have a DJ at our wedding but he just played his own selection and he never asked us if we wanted something special to dance to. Mike and I both like romantic country and western songs though but we have no particular favourite.

Chris also asks: What type of camera do you have?

Mike and I each have a digital camera. Mine was originally his and it is a Nikon Coolpix 2000. I took his camera when I bought him a new camera last year for Christmas. His is a Fuji FinePix S7000. So sometimes I take the photos but often he does. Glad you think the pictures are good.

 

jmoqueen  asks: What book have you read that you feel changed your life and how?

There are two books that I can say changed my life. The first is “Self Help For Your Nerves” by Claire Weekes. When I was in my twenties I used to suffer appalling panic attacks many times per day, so bad that I was frightened to put the light out at night or be left on my own. Drugs did little to help. Then my parents bought me this book. I learned that the more you fight against panic attacks, the more you hang on to yourself, the worse they become. The secret is to let them do their worst, they will reach a pitch beyond which they will not go and then subside. By trying to stop them, by tensing yourself against them , you worsen them - “fear breeds fear”. I learned to see them through, to accept them, however unpleasant and understand that I would come out the other side. I still have panic attacks from time to time. I can cope with them now.  They are still unpleasant but no longer scare me as they used to years ago.  I still have and treasure that book. I have read it over and over and it has stood me in good stead.

The second would be The Bible. I did not have a particularly happy childhood either at home or at school where I was bullied. I found my solace in the church by joining the Girl Guides (Girl Scouts), joining the church choir, the church drama group. I became a Sunday school teacher and loved teaching the little ones. I was very involved in the church. I found that my faith helped me through many a difficulty and many an unhappy time. I know that my faith helps me to this very day. It has been tried and tested many times, sometimes I have been tempted to cast it aside but it is so firmly part of me, I was never, thankfully, able to do that.

My faith is still helping me through hard times.

Wldconnie asks: As a grandmother, how do you handle things going on with the way your grandchildren are brought up if you do not agree with it? Do you keep quiet or say something?

I have no qualms with the way my Grandchildren are being brought up. Becky and Dean are excellent parents who love their boys very much and do everything they can for them. From time to time I have had concerns about little issues but I have always spoken up and aired my views or worries. My daughter has always taken what I have said in a a good way. She knows that if I do raise concerns it is only because I love the boys so much. We have a good mother/daughter relationship and there is practically nothing we cannot discuss with each other. Yes, I would always say something should there be a problem.

Stevie asks: If you could be anyone and go back in time, where would you go, who would you be and why?

I found this very hard. I mean how can you pick one period of history or one person from all those centuries?  I have always been fascinated by Egyptian history and mythology, the Elizabethan era and Victorian times. I  much admire strong women so maybe Queen Elizabeth the first or Florence Nightingale. Then on the other hand I so admire Charles Dickens, the wonderful characters that he brought to life and the names he gave them. I really do not know. I suppose that it would be nice to make such an impact on the world that you were remembered centuries after your death. To invent something, to find a cure for a disease, to write a great piece of music to pen wonderful books or paint something beautiful on canvas. Stevie, there are just so many people I admire I simply cannot choose, one person, one place or one time.

Finally, Monae asks two questions: What is the one thing you would like people to know about you and with all the talk of terrorism on the news how is your life affected by it and is your area affected by terrorism?

Err, well people know so much about me from my pet hates and these two postings on answering questions, I cannot think of anything. Oh yes, I am five feet, five inches tall but my weight is a state secret.

We are all affected by terrorism these days. I think we all worry about it. The world has changed and will never be quite the same again. We have had no terror scares in our area. However, it does no good to live in fear. If you do, the terrorists win and achieve part of their aim which is to demoralise us. We can only live our lives to the best of our ability, pray for peace in a better world and strive for better understanding between our different nations and religions.

Well, folks, there you go.  You have probably learned more about me than you knew before.  I have enjoyed the questions very much, got me really thinking.  Maybe I learned something more about myself.  I hope you have enjoyed reading my answers and that I have not left anybody out.  Thanks for joining in and making it so worthwhile.

Have a great week my friends.

 

 

Saturday, September 2, 2006

Special Extra Entry - Re Journal Awards

A second posting from me today, but I just had to do this one as soon as possible to spread the word.

Vivian has posted  a poll to ask people if they want Journal awards to go ahead this year.  Apparently someone is volunteering to run them.  At the moment, the majority seem to be in favour of the awards.  To vote please visit Vivian to read all about it and how it works. Everyone has the chance to participate no matter if they have been journalling a long time or have just begun  recently. It is also a good way to get to know journals you might otherwise miss. 

Vivian

Donna has already made a superb graphic for the awards as you can see.  She is happy for you to snag.  This is her link:

Donna

Please do not forget for those of you who have not yet seen my other posting today, I have started answering all your questions.  You never know, yours might just be there.  I will finish the others off in my next posting.

 

Answering Your Questions - Part One

 

Glad you liked our new bird feeder yesterday. What a change in the weather today, from hot and sunny to gloomy, chilly and a strong wind.  You just never know what Mother Nature has in store.

Well, it is time to start answering your questions.  I cannot do it all in one entry otherwise it would end up as long as "War and Peace".  I am enjoying them, so thank you.  Here we go then:

Lisa asks : Do you think your health care system is better than here in America and do you think you would have a better standard of living here in America?

This is difficult. Our health care systems are totally different. Ours, of course, is “free” but that can mean long waiting lists for consultations and operations. However, everyone is entitled to free treatment under our National Health Service. In America you have to take out health insurance which can be costly. On the plus side that probably means you can be seen very quickly but it also means that those on low incomes cannot afford the insurance which must be a terrible worry.

So I suppose, it is swings and roundabouts. We are used to our system and it would be hard to change but whether American health care is actually better, I cannot say. As to the standard of living, I have no idea how American salaries compare with British ones. I know that housing is cheaper in the States, or rather you can get more for your money and food is also cheaper. I can only imagine that if you had a reasonably good job, yes the standard of living would be better in the U.S.

Mary asks: What American City would you like to visit and on a deeper level how do you deal with hurts and bitterness?

Had I been able to come to America, there are so many cities I would love to have visited. New York, of course -that would be a must. Also to go to Memphis and see Graceland. I always had a strong desire to go to New Orleans, so badly devastated by Katrina. New Orleans appealed to me for the music, the buildings, the food and all the hauntings. But I truly cannot pick one city. Mike and I always had a dream and that was to hire a camper and travel across America stopping wherever we wanted and taking in as much as we could, including cowboy country. The US is an amazing pace with so many different things to see. So, I truly cannot pick just one city.

As for hurt and bitterness, I am a person who gets hurt very easily and have suffered a lot of it during my lifetime. However, I have always tried not to be bitter. Bitterness does not solve anything, it just eats away at you. I cannot change my personality and I have always been ultra-sensitive. However, now I think if people hurt me or destroy our relationship, the loss is theirs. I also believe that, as my mother used to say, “God pays debts without money” and that if people do bad or spiteful things it only comes back to them in the end. To actually deal with hurt I usually have a very long, hard cry and then try and let it go and forget about it.

Brodietrish asks: If you could live anywhere you wanted where would it be?

Well, I am proud to be British and so I would not want to reside outside the UK. However, I would like to live somewhere with much more countryside, somewhere I could look out of my windows and see hills or woodland, maybe a river - that would be nice. So I think my choice would be either Wales or the Exmoor region of Somerset. Or my other choice would be somewhere looking over the sea.

Joyce asks: what is your all-time favourite romantic movie?

This is easy. For me no romantic film has ever compared with “Wuthering Heights” starring Merle Oberon and Laurence Olivier. I have watched that film countless times. I always cry although I know it so well. Superb.

Jan asks: When IS your birthday and what is your earliest memory?

My birthday is the 9th September, Jan. The ninth day of the ninth month so, not long to go now. My earliest memory is being in my pram and hurtling down a hill out of control. My “dear” brother who never wanted another baby in the house decided to let the brakes off my pram and see it roll. It gathered great speed on its downhill flight but luckily a person grabbed the pram before it came to the bottom and overturned.

Laura asks: What do you really think of the Royal family, especially Diana?

I have no particularly strong views on the Royal family although I wish the Queen had smiled a lot more throughout her reign like the Queen Mother used to. I like the fact that we are a monarchy and we have lots of tradition and ceremonial. It does cost a deal of money but also brings a lot of tourists into the country. It has also prevented Tony Blair from becoming the president I feel he would loved to have been! As for Diana, I loved her. She was not without her faults but I feel she was very badly used by the Royal family, particularly Charles who never loved her from the very beginning, I had my doubts right from the start when I saw their engagement interview when he said “love, whatever that means”.  He obviously had no love for her. She was purely breeding stock and nothing else. Charles should have realized what a treasure he had in her and what a wonderful Queen she would have made, popular, beautiful, caring and doing good works.

Jae asks: If you had one entire day, just for yourself, to do anything you wanted, what would you do?

I found this one hard because now Mike is retired we can do what we like everyday within reason. But I think it would be having a facial, nails done, legs waxed, pedicure, then go shopping for absolutely anything that I wanted followed by a lovely lunch in somewhere posh in London like the Ritz or the Savoy. That would be followed by a drive out to the coast and a long walk along a quiet beach, paddling in the water, investigating rock pools, throwing toys for the dogs and then finishing the day up with a lovely dinner in a very old country pub followed by a couple of drinks and a romantic drive home. That would be luxury and pampering to me. My other choice would be a day spent with my Grandsons.

Caff asks: Is being a granny/grandma/nanny better than being a mum?

Well, being a granny - Nanjay in my case, means that you can hand them back when you are tired and you have had enough. It means no sleepless nights with them crying or sitting up with them when they are sick. On the other hand being a nanny means that you are a lot older, have aches and pains and quite often other health issues and, at times, it does make you feel old. Sometimes you long to be young again, sometimes you wish they were YOUR children. You wonder where the years have flown. But on the whole being either is equally wonderful. So, being a Grandmother only brings another dimension to your life, it is yet another phase on  life's journey and it does bring great happiness.

Mandy asks: What does being happy mean to you and how do you cope with everyday living and the stress?

Being happy to me means having no really bad health issues, having no pressing money worries, having a roof over my head and food in my stomach, having my wonderful family around me. As for everyday living and stress - well, I just get on with it, we all have to. I am not good at handling stress but I have Mike and my family to support me and I count myself blessed because not everyone is lucky enough to have family around them. I turn to music often when I am really stressed, usually light classical in that instance and I lie on my bed and listen to it and whilst listening I count my blessings and make mental notes to myself that stress does nothing but make you ill, and so I try and programme positive thoughts instead.  I often fall asleep during these times and then awake feeling more able to cope.

Cindy asks:  If you were given one chance to wish for anything you wanted, what would it be?

Perfect health and to live to 100 years so that I could see my Grandsons married with families of their own.

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This week I have had two lovely postcards, one from Linda showing Skagway, Alaska and one from Lisa with a beautiful red Cardinal on the front.  Thank you both so much.

I shall answer the rest of your questions in my next posting.  I hope I will not leave anyone out, if I do please remind me. Take care everyone.

Friday, September 1, 2006

Something New In The Garden

Hello my friends,  I shall be answering your questions in my next entry when I have had the time to print them off and go through them.  From what I have seen there are some quite interesting ones and I might well have to run to two entries to answer them all.

In the meantime I thought you might like to see a new bird feeder that I purchased and which arrived today.  It looks so nice out in the garden and I am so impressed with it I am going to order the matching birdhouse which is like a miniature dovecote where birds can either shelter or even nest should they so wish. 

Of course, no bird has actually used it yet.  They are creatures of habit and do not like change.  It will only take one brave bird to try it and soon it will be smothered.  I do not think they were best pleased that we moved our original feeder over to put the new one just where we wanted it.

It took them several hours to even use the old one.  They sat in the trees and shrubs looking very suspicious (if birds can) but a short time ago they started to come down again as you will see.

Anyway, here is our new acquisition:-

And, finally, here are some of our feathered friends.  At least the pigeons cannot get on these feeders.

Now I am going to print off your questions and after I have sorted out the evening meal and eaten, I shall type up my answers ready for my next post.  If anybody still wants to add a question, there is still time so feel free.

Happy weekend everybody.