My junior school was across the road from the Infants school I attended. A two storey brick building with a small playground surrounded by a huge brick wall. To be honest it was more like a prison yard than a playground. It was dominated on one side by the toilet block used by both boys and girls and it smelled absolutely awful. I came to dread those toilets as I spent so much time in there when I became the target of a bully and it was my only refuge. The other side had a mighty iron fire escape coming down from the upper block so there was not really much room left to play.
The headmistress was Miss Ross. I remember we all adored her. She had beautiful dark curly hair just touched with grey at the sides, wore bright red lipstick and was always immaculate. She daily wore a pale green silk dress tightly belted at the waist which showed off her slim figure. Thinking back, she must have had several of them made for her, all the same, because we never saw her in anything else. She always had a beautiful embroidered handkerchief tucked into her belt and wore a delicate perfume. If we got sent to her for any misdeed, she would tick you off in the nicest possible way. I had been there for around two years when we had a shock. She did not come into school one day and we were told that she had died suddenly of a heart attack. Of course, we did not know what that was, we only knew she was gone and we were all so very sad. Until I left, we had a succession of short time head teachers.
It was Miss Ross who tried to brighten up our playground and introduce us to nature. There was no room for a garden but she came up with the idea of stacking car tyres one on top of the other, painting them light green, filling them with soil and having plants throughout the year, whatever was in season. They were a little oasis of paradise in that grim yard.
My favourite teacher was Mrs. Mansell who took us for needlework and English. She had that wonderful totally white hair and it fell in soft waves. She had a beautiful gentle and melodic voice. She told us stories whilst we worked and was really more like a Grandmother than a teacher. She adored children and it showed. If only all teachers could have been like her. I loved her dearly.
Mrs. Mansell.
I remember the nature tables. Every classroom had one and we collected things and brought them in to be displayed. Maybe a conker, some wild flowers, caterpillars in a jar, catkins, bird's eggs. It was all so fascinating. I remember watching the development of tadpoles into frogs for the first time.
No television or computers in schools in those days. We had the radio and I well remember “Music and Movement” a fifteen minute broadcast. We had to pretend to be trees swaying in the breeze, squat down and walk around like ducks or prance like fairies. I would like to see me prance these days and as for getting down like a duck, it would take two people to haul me up again!!!!
I made a friend in the first couple of days, Jean M. and we are still in contact all these years later. Alas, it was her next door neighbour and “friend” that became the spectre at the feast. As I have mentioned in this journal previously, I was painfully shy, unable to stand up for myself. I think I was a great disappointment to my mother who was so outgoing and bubbly. I took after my Father, quiet and withdrawn and did not relate easily to others. So this Margaret N. - yes I still remember her name with horror, decided that she did not like my being friends with Jean and set about making my life a misery. Hitting me and punching me or pinching me at every opportunity. Always telling me that she would “get me” either in school or at playtime or on the way home. It got so bad that every break time I would lock myself in one of the toilets and remain there until the bell went for classes again.
In those days, nothing was done about bullying, it was not even recognised. If you said anything to a teacher they would just tell you it was harmless fun or that you should stand up for yourself. I could not tell me Mother because I knew she was disappointed in me already and showed little interest in me until I was around the age of thirteen. To make matters worse, one particular teacher took a dislike to me as well - the dreaded and awful Miss Barnes. Looking back I do not think she was fit to be a teacher. She disliked children intensely and was a most peculiar woman in general. On the hottest summer day she would wear two coats - yes two coats - and thick jumpers underneath, a scarf around her neck, a thick felt hat on her head and Wellington boots. This was her attire summer and winter. She had a face that looked as if she had sucked lemons and a voice that could shatter glass.
When someone did something wrong in her class, she always blamed me even if I was sitting there paying attention and quietly working. She was always making me stand at the front of the class. I used to stand there, my face burning with embarrassment whilst the boys and some of the girls sniggered. Once, when she was in a particularly bad mood she locked me in a cupboard and left me there for a whole hour. All the other children thought it was hilarious. However, the damage that was done to me then has remained with me throughout my life, particularly as there were problems at home.
I loved the time when Margaret N. was away sick or on holiday (you could take children out in term time in those days) because then I could emerge into the playground and join in the games even though I was nervous.
So, my junior school was a mixture of happiness, sadness, fear, anxiety and learning. I am grateful that my lasting friendship with Jean came out of it and that somehow I did manage to learn something!
~ To be continued.
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My school days were horrible sometimes!Run by Nuns they were more like the devils advocates ,cruel and bullying lunatics.
I remember the nature table as well and loved it. I also loved the dressing up corner, lol.........Jules xxxx
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Your entry brought back alot of memories of school and my favorite teachers! I know what is is like to be bullied, I was the object thru junior high and high school and I was shy and not popular and quite unattractive too! Of course I really didn't do anything to improve my appearance. Sometimes I still dream about being in school, it usually involves being lost or not being able to remember my locker combination etc.... Linda
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Humm, you had some bad school days. Wonder if that bully is still a bully. I hate the idea you were so scared of her that you stayed in that stinking old outhouse to get away from her. Shame on her. I wouldn't want to be a child of hers when she grew up as she probably taught her children to be a bullies too. You had some bad teachers too but thank goodness you had some good ones. It makes me feel sad for you that some of those days were horrible for you. Helen
wow, your schooldays sound like mine. I actually wrote a suicide note the bullying I received was so bad. Ahh sad times.
My schooldays were pleasant and painful as well. I do not have as many vivid memories, though. They are pretty much blocked out. How different it was back then, though, you are right. Kids are more protected. Very interesting...Take care, my lovely friend! xox
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I wish you had more pleasant experiences...JAE
A very interesting entry Jeannette. From the comments left , you were not alone. I had tastes of happiness and misery at Infants and Juniors. Like you I could have done without the misery. Why was that that there was always one dreadful teacher at school ? I look forward to the continuation :-)
Sandra xxxx
Your detail is amazing Jeannette. I can remember more of my childhood now than I could after the 1973 wreck when a semi-truck hit our car at 70 mph. After the wreck people who knew me would say hello to me and I wouldn't know who they were.
a very brave post-nobody likes to admit they were bullied .bullying takes a long time to get over,if you ever do.i remember the sense of shame myself that u are somehow not `normal`.look forward to your next post ...fran x
Like you, I was always shy and quiet at school, until my Upper School years when I suddenly found a bit of confidence. I was never bullied though. Kids can be so mean. I wonder if, as adults, they ever think about the children they bullied, and regret what they did. Or did they just continue to bully their way through life. J had a nature table at pre-school :o)
Sara x
Like you, dear Lady, I was shy and withdrawn. I was different and was often the bunt of jokes. Teachers have such an awesome responsibility. Sometimes I wonder if they know that they can do more harm than good. Isn't it ironic that the frightening ones stay with us as long as the ones that worked so hard to teach us. Pennie
Big hugs to you Jeannette. I know EXACTLY what you went through. I had a band of girls (and a couple boys) who made it their mission in life to make me miserable. I'm glad the problem of bullying is getting much more attention these days. I hope by the time Tyler is in school, they will have a firm grip on the problem.
I was bullied too my a girl lived across the road. I was only 7 years old, attended the village school. To get home I had to walk down a lonely lane and across a tiny footpath between four fields. I loved that path, it was from there I stood and talked to my grandpy's old retired horse, through a small iron gate in the wall of his paddock. Until I was "ambushed" on the way home one day. My so called friend and neighbour had ganged up with 4 boys, I thought they kill me. And they were supposedly my friends and neighbours. She even used to attack me, while awaiting the bus, which took me to work, and one time, soon after I met hubby, she tried to attack me in the street one night. Hubby stopped it all. Told her he loved me and in future he would keep a close on her. One step out of place and he was ready to approach the local police officer. She has never been a friend again, but reckon with the passing of years, we would get on fine. I don't know what her problem was with med and doubt I ever will.
Sylvia x
I thought you did a great job of explaining the situation of being bothered by a bully...it is so sad, these people have no self-esteme at all for themselves. I applaud you for your frankness!
Joyce
I enjoyed reading this and can relate to many of the things you said. I was also very timid and painfully shy when I was in school (you'd never know it now!)
Jon
An interesting enty - we are learning a lot about you Jeannette. I feel so sorry for what you have gone through and being able to share it with us must take a lot of guts. (((((((hugs))))))
I enjoyed reading this entry. Miss Ross and Mrs. Mansell sound wonderful. As for the bullying...I'm hopeful that adults are finally learning not to "blame the victim" with poor advice such as "stick up for yourself". Bullies need to be punished. To those who say that punishing bullies only makes them pick on their victims more in order to get revenge....well, I would say that is simply a sign of adults not supervising those bullies enough. Some bullies may need to be prosecuted legally if they are physically attacking other children.
The verbal bullying is a whole other matter, and much trickier to deal with. I do not know the answer.
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